A problem shared is a problem halved, as the saying goes. And it’s definitely true. We’ve all had times where we feel like we’re the only ones going through something. Maybe a bad day at work, a fallout with a friend, or an issue with your partner but how many of us feel comfortable sharing these problems with someone else, a friend, loved one or even a colleague?
Maybe it’s not wanting to take up someone’s time, or maybe it’s because we’re Brits but I find not many of us actually share our problems. I do. I find talking to a friend about whatever it is that’s going on helps diffuse a situation. Usually it’s not as bad as I thought, or, more often than not, they might have been through exactly the same.
Suddenly what started as a monster of an issue in my head becomes something I can deal with and I often feel silly for even worrying about it in the first place.
It also gives me reassurance that deep down we all have similar problems or worries but we don’t pay them attention for fear of looking ‘weak’ or ‘like a failure’. Worries are not a sign of a weak mind, it merely means you care enough to worry about something or someone.
So why is it good to share your problems?
- Sharing builds trust. When you confide in a friend or family member, it brings you closer and chances are they will respect you for coming to them in the first place.
- Sharing brings perspective. Often we get so caught up in our own head that we forget to see the bigger picture.
- Sharing brings understanding. Telling a loved one or friend about your problems helps them get to know you better so they can offer the right support.
- Sharing allows clarity. Sometimes the way we tell someone about a problem can help you see what it is that is concerning you as we tend to emphasise the things that bother us most.
- Sharing brings inner peace. Getting something off your chest allows you to let go of it and make more time for doing things that make you happy.
We all have our own little battles to fight but I believe that there is always someone out there who will listen. And if all else fails, write it down with pen and paper!