So the title for this week may be somewhat misleading. Admittedly it sounds like something a careers advisor might say to you, however there’s more to it than meets the eye.
This week was an interesting one because, before I decided what was going to be the focus, I checked my diary and saw it was going to be a hectic one with a rather major work event mid week plus something on most nights.
It was then that I thought why don’t I think about how the pressures of each day have an affect on my overall levels on self-confidence and then see what I could change to improve them. So that’s what I did.
We all have options and choices, in everyday life we face many options from what to have for breakfast to which supplier to choose for new promotional merchandise.
Yet when it comes to our emotional well being, including our self-esteem, we don’t always give ourselves the same options. If we feel upset, we think it’s meant to be and if we feel unhappy we assume a lifetime of sorrow lies ahead. But no, that is not the case. If we’re unhappy we have the power to make ourselves happy and if we’re upset, we can change it.
Stress, in particular, is a big trigger for unhappiness because usually as a result we lose sleep, we don’t eat properly and we don’t exercise enough so our energy levels are low and we feel down as well.
What can we do about it?
Go for a short walk, set aside half an hour to cook a decent meal or get to bed earlier. In theory it seems simple, however in practice it doesn’t often happen like that.
What we can do which doesn’t require as much effort is to dig deep inside ourselves and remember a time someone was kind to us or when we felt happy and confident. Even the simple memory of such a time can lift your spirits. (Try it!)
Then hold on to that feeling and enjoy it. The more you do it, the better you feel. Not only that but it puts things in perspective and means you don’t feel like your low point is going to last forever, because they’re not designed to do that.
Practising this simple thing helped me deal with the more stressful days at work this week and helped me to boost my own self-esteem at the same time, as the positive feelings came flooding in.