I went to a powerful talk last night by the inspiring Wendy Smith, who was talking all about how to be the most authentic version of yourself. She is one of those people that gives off such wonderful energy and, despite the challenges she has faced, she has incredible resilience and drive.
She spoke about perspective and how we see ourselves. She encouraged us to experiment and question ourselves. Ask yourself, who do you want to be? Who are you? It sparked something in me that made me want to be really honest with myself, who is the authentic version of me?
I was fascinated when she talked about strategies to overcome limiting beliefs through exercises like cross-braining and Ho’oponopono. We all carry around beliefs that don’t help us and our emotions can show these to us. Our anxiety, anger, sadness or frustration all tell us something about our beliefs.
The thing is our emotions are ours and therefore we can control them. It isn’t anyone else’s fault how we feel, we choose our emotions. They are just sharing their story, their map of themselves. That struck a chord with me, how we can use our own energy to control how we feel. And talking of energy, Wendy spoke about creating an energy ball in your hands. I hadn’t done this before and found it such a useful concept. I read a useful article on how to create this energy ball from Livestrong.
All this information came at just the right time as I make the transition into a new phase of my life. At this point, I now feel I have unhooked all the ties that held me linked to my previous relationship. I am ready to move forward. The last few weeks, in particular, have been crucial for playing this out and for facing my own vulnerabilities.
Learning to trust the process and be open to vulnerability is hard. I have been challenged by my mind and body and have been making a conscious shift from worrying to learning to sit with feelings of being uncomfortable. I appreciate the signs from my body and I’m getting better at tuning in to it, rather than resisting it.
At the same time, I am opening up to change in other areas of my life. I am socialising in new groups and doing new hobbies where I meet different people. These people are becoming more relevant and important in my life because I can easily connect with them. Previous groups have become more distant and I’ve even felt disconnected from some friendships which I thought would last a lifetime.
Being open to all of this has taught me a huge amount about myself and how I tick. I’m enjoying my new freedoms and experiences and meeting people who I connect with on a deeper level. They are from all walks of life and they’ve expanded my horizons. Perhaps I’m subconsciously moving away from those people who I see as ‘settled’ in their lives, because that’s the polar opposite of what I’m looking for right now.
A key takeaway from the talk which is helping me with this is to lead with your heart. Tune into feelings and reactions, go where you feel happy and joyful and be with people who lift you up. It’s so liberating to stop thinking so much and start following a sense of joy in everything I do.