Sometimes it can feel as though you’re the only one doing what you’re doing, going through what’s going on in your life. And other times it can feel like you are in just the right place at the right time. It all depends on who you are surrounding yourself with.
It can be hard to find your fit and, at some points in your life, you will need different people. The ebb and flow of friendships is part of life, it allows us to grow.
I have, and have had, many great friendships, most of which have given me strength when I needed it, made me happy and fed my soul with joy. Others, I have since realised, were toxic or one-sided, but we don’t always see that at the time. Finding a group of people who ‘get’ you, your tribe, takes time and it also takes knowing yourself first.
When I found out my personality type was an INFJ (you can do a free personality type test at 16Personalities.com), it seemed to help. Everything that I previously thought was ‘weird’ about me made sense and I felt more confident being who I really am. I didn’t mind that some of my personality traits may come across differently to others.
Once you get yourself and understand who you truly are, you send out a vibe which often attracts similar people. It was around the same time that I made friends with people who were also INFJs, or who stood for something different, who championed things which others may simply ignore.
These friends lifted me up and made me feel part of something. They were all different ages, from different walks of life but we were all on this mission together. Every time we talked, I felt inspired, uplifted and on track. This is what a tribe is all about.
Having a tribe is especially important for women. The power held by a group of women, aligned on the same course, is far greater than anything man-made. Together, we have the power and energy to overcome many of life’s challenges
Find who you are, rise up and spread that vibe with others. Join women’s circles or start your own. Invite other women along, meet those who are aligned to your path and lift each other up.
The time to find your tribe is now. Find them. Love them. Lift them.